Last week I was feeling kinda sorry for myself. It doesn’t matter why, so much as the fact that we all have moments like that. My general M.O. when I’m feeling sorry for myself is to serve it with a generous side of guilt. Who am I to be sad when there are so many who struggle every day? Then my dad told me “it’s OK to feel a little sorry for yourself.” This resulted in an immediate stream of tears. Something about recieving permission to let go made all the difference. Now I am giving all of you permission to do the same the next time you face a really bad day. Everyone experiences struggle and hardship on some level, and it’s OK to to be upset about it. Just make sure to reaffirm all the things that have gone right for you-without any guilt attached.
So, here is your Pity Party Playlist; four songs about crying for your personal indulgement.
Tears for Affairs, Camera Obscura (2006)
Camera Obscura is a dreamy little band that I have loved for a few years now. Starting with the second time through the chorus, there is a really sweet call-and-response between the “dumpee” and the “dumper,” resulting in a discussion about the awkwardness of eye contact etc. I’m so glad to be happily married so I don’t have to go through any of that again. There is beauty in pain, but I’m over that kind.
Crying, Roy Orbison (1961)
This is the auditory embodiment of heartbreak. “Crying” is one of the most beautifully crafted songs ever written. The lyrics are simple but true and the structure of the song, along with Roy’s voice, build up a beautiful tension that rolls over me like the waves emotion that come with a grieving heart.
96 Tears, ? and the Mysterians (1966)
Sweet psychedelic organ hook+evil revenge plot=gold. “96 Tears” is the ultimate self indulgent heartbreak revenge fantasy. This song provides proof that struggle and hardship are excellent motivators for success: so you can rub it in the faces of the people who treated you like crap before you made it.
A Tear in My Beer, Hank Williams (1950-recorded, 1989-released)
Hank Williams is the master of simplicity. There is nothing complicated about the song structure or lyrics and there doesn’t need to be. While relationships can be complicated, heartache is not.